Dear Bad Cop: Try talking to your husband during a calm moment when your daughter isn’t around, and make sure you start the conversation by acknowledging you both want what’s best for her. Then, work together to create a basic set of rules you both agree to follow. Consistency is key.

I just think we need to be consistent, but I don’t know if it’s possible when our views on discipline seem fundamentally different.

My husband and I have a 6-year-old daughter, “Eliza,” and we recently have not been seeing eye to eye in terms of how to handle discipline. For example, last week, when she refused to put her toys away after playing with them,